Auspicious Months in Wedding Months According to Islam
𝘒𝘪𝘺𝘢𝘪 𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢𝘬 𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘺𝘦𝘭𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘨𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘪 𝘋𝘻𝘶𝘭𝘩𝘪𝘫𝘫𝘢𝘩 𝘋𝘻𝘶𝘭𝘩𝘪𝘫𝘫𝘢𝘩, 𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘬𝘢𝘩 𝘢𝘥𝘢 𝘬𝘦𝘶𝘵𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘺𝘢? 𝘋𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘱𝘢 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘣𝘢𝘪𝘬 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘬 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬 𝘢𝘩 ?
Answer
𝘖𝘭𝘦𝘩 : 𝘈𝘩𝘮𝘢𝘥 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘩𝘳𝘪𝘯 𝘛𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘲
In Islam all times are good. So, if there is an understanding that states that certain times or months are not good for getting married or holding certain wishes, then this clearly violates the Shari'a. Mentioned in the hadith:
قَالَ اللَّهُ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ يُؤْذِينِى ابْنُ آدَمَ يَسُبُّ الدَّه ْرَ وَأَنَا الدَّهْرُ أُقَلِّبُ اللَّيْلَ وَالنَّهَارَ
”𝘈𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩 ’𝘈𝘻𝘻𝘢 𝘸𝘢 𝘑𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘧𝘪𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘯,’𝘈𝘬𝘶 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘢𝘬𝘪𝘵𝘪 𝘰𝘭𝘦𝘩 𝘢𝘯𝘢𝘬 𝘈𝘥𝘢𝘮. 𝘋𝘪𝘢 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘭𝘢 𝘸𝘢𝘬𝘵𝘶, 𝘱𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘭 𝘈𝘬𝘶 𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘭 𝘢𝘩 (𝘱𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘶𝘳) 𝘸𝘢𝘬𝘵𝘶, 𝘈𝘬𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣 𝘰𝘭𝘢𝘬-𝘣𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘨.” (HR. Muslim)
So in the Shari'a, time is only divided into two, namely good days and very good days. So if the problem is looking for the best of the good, then this is permissible and even recommended.
Including the time to hold a wedding, there are indeed the best times as explained by the ulama. And we can deliberately choose it. Here are some of the statements:
1. Month of Shawwal
Some scholars from the Malikiyyah and Shafi'iyyah circles are of the opinion that a very good time to get married is in the month of Shawwal.[1] This is based on the history of Ummul Mukminin Aisyah:
God willing َوَّال، وَبَنَى بِي فِي شَوَّال، فَأَيّ نِسَاء رَسُول اللَّه صَلَّ ى اللَّه عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ كَانَ أَحْظَى عِنْده مِنِّي
"𝘙𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘭𝘶𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩𝘶'𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘩𝘪 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪𝘬𝘶 𝘥𝘪 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘬𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘪𝘬𝘶 𝘫𝘶𝘨𝘢 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘢𝘶 𝘣𝘦𝘭𝘪𝘢𝘶 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘬𝘪𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘭𝘦𝘣𝘪𝘩𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘱𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘩𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘦𝘴𝘢𝘳 𝘥𝘪 𝘴𝘪𝘴𝘪𝘯 𝘺𝘢 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪𝘱𝘢𝘥𝘢 𝘢𝘬𝘶?" (HR. Muslim).
When explaining the above hadith, Al Imam Nawawi Rahimullah said:
فيه استحباب التزويج والتزوج والدخول في شوال وقد نص أصحا بنا على استحبابه واستدلوا بهذا الحديث وقصدت عائشة بهذا الكلام ما كانت الجاهلية عليه وما يتخيله بعض العوام اليوم من كراهة التزوج والت زويج والدخول في شوال وهذا باطل لا أصل له
” 𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘵𝘢𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢 𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘬𝘶𝘮𝘱 𝘶𝘭 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪 𝘱𝘢𝘥𝘢 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭. 𝘋𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘦𝘵𝘢𝘱𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘮𝘢 𝘴𝘺𝘢𝘧𝘪 𝘴𝘺𝘢𝘧𝘪 𝘢𝘵𝘢𝘴 𝘬𝘦𝘴𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘭 𝘪𝘯𝘪 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘭 𝘩𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘣𝘶𝘵. 𝘋𝘢𝘯 𝘈𝘪𝘴𝘺𝘢𝘩 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘴𝘶𝘥𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘬𝘢𝘵𝘢𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘪 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘵𝘢𝘩 𝘬𝘦𝘣𝘪𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘢𝘯 𝘬𝘦𝘣𝘪𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘢𝘯 𝘫𝘢𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘪𝘺𝘺𝘢𝘩 𝘣𝘢𝘩𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘬𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘮 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘣𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘪 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘵𝘢𝘶 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘪 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘤𝘢𝘮𝘱𝘶𝘳𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘮𝘪 𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪 𝘥𝘪 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭, 𝘬𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘯 𝘪𝘯𝘪 𝘫𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘴 "[2]
1. Month of Syafar
Some Shafi'iyyah scholars also believe that a good month for marriage is the month of Shafar.[3] Because there is a history from Imam Zuhri Rahimullah:
أَنَّ رَسُول اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسient َا فِي شَهْرِ صَفَرٍ
” " 𝘢 𝘍𝘢𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘩 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘳𝘢𝘥𝘩𝘪𝘺𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩𝘶 ‘𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘶𝘮𝘢 𝘱𝘢𝘥𝘢 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘧𝘢𝘳.”[4]
3. Muharram month
Some other scholars believe that it is sunnah to marry in the month of Muharram. Because he chose the opinion that Fatima's marriage to Sayyidina Ali was in the month of Muharram.
Sheikh Athiyah As Sakar said:
ﻭﻗﺪ ﺫﻛﺮﺕ ا اﻟﺴﻴﺮﺓ ﺃﻥ اﻟﻨﺒﻰ ﺻﻠﻰ اﻟﻠﻪ ﻋﻠﻴﻪ ﻭﺳﻠﻢ ﻋﻘﺪ ﻔ ﻔ ﻋﻠﻰ ﺑﻦ ﺑﻦ ﺃﺑﻰ ﻃ ﻃ above ﺑﻨ ﺑﻌ ﺑﻌ ﺃﺷﻬﺮ ﻭﻧﺼﻒ ا ا ا ، ﻭﺣﻴﺚ ﻗﺪ ﻋﻠﻤﻨ ﻋﻠﻤﻨ ﻋﻠﻤﻨ ﻋﻠﻤﻨ ﻋﻠﻤﻨ ﻋﻠﻤﻨ ﺑﻌ ﻛ ago ﺃﻧﻪ ﻛﺎﻥ ﻓﻰ ﺃﻭاﺋﻞ اﻟﻤﺤﺮﻡ .
"𝘋𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘥𝘪𝘴𝘦𝘣𝘶𝘵𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘬𝘪𝘵𝘢𝘣 𝘴𝘦𝘫𝘢𝘳𝘢𝘩 𝘣𝘢𝘩𝘸𝘢 𝘕𝘢𝘣𝘪 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩𝘶 𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘪𝘩𝘪 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘈𝘭𝘪 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩 𝘈𝘪𝘴𝘺𝘢𝘩 𝘈𝘪𝘴𝘺𝘢𝘩 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘵𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘩. 𝘒𝘪𝘵𝘢 𝘵𝘦𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘵𝘢𝘩𝘶 𝘣𝘢𝘩𝘸𝘢 𝘕𝘢𝘣𝘪 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩 𝘥𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘈𝘪𝘴𝘺𝘢𝘩 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘪𝘥𝘶𝘱 𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘥𝘪 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘮𝘢𝘬𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘍𝘢 𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘩 𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘥𝘪 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘚𝘩𝘢𝘧𝘢𝘳. 𝘈𝘥𝘢 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘵𝘢𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘢𝘩𝘸𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘍𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘮𝘢𝘩 𝘢𝘸𝘢𝘭 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘔𝘶𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘢𝘮. "[5]
And said Shaikh Yusuf al Qaradawi:
ولا يحجموا عن الزواج فيه وأن يتike ، ومنها الزواج.
"𝘑𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘳 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩 𝘱𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢 (𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘔𝘶𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘢𝘮) 𝘬𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘢 (𝘱𝘶𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘧𝘢𝘢𝘵) 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘨𝘩𝘪𝘭𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘬𝘢𝘢𝘯 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘢𝘥𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘔𝘶𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘢𝘮 𝘔𝘶𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘳𝘢𝘮 𝘴𝘦𝘣𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘪𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘬𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘥𝘪𝘩𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘮𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘢𝘱 𝘴𝘦𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨𝘨𝘢 𝘮𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘬𝘢 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘫𝘢𝘶𝘩𝘪 𝘱𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘵𝘪𝘢𝘱 𝘱𝘦𝘴𝘵𝘢 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘺𝘢𝘢𝘯 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘬 𝘥𝘪 𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩. "[6]
Closing
Meanwhile, regarding the virtues of getting married in the month of Dzulhijjah, as asked, I have not received information from any book about it. But what is clear once again is that all times are good for doing good, including marriage. Said Shaykh Yusuf al Qaradawi:
He also said:
إن الشهور والأيام كلها – في نظر الإسلام – ترحب بالزواج لأنه شعيرة من ش God willing
"𝘚𝘦𝘴𝘶𝘯𝘨𝘨𝘶𝘩𝘯𝘺𝘢 𝘣𝘶𝘭𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪 𝘩𝘢𝘳𝘪 𝘱𝘢𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘢𝘯 𝘐𝘴𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘣𝘢𝘪𝘬 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘪𝘢𝘯𝘫𝘶𝘳𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘶𝘯𝘵𝘶𝘬 𝘮𝘦𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩. 𝘒𝘢𝘳𝘦𝘯𝘢 𝘯𝘪𝘬𝘢𝘩 𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘴𝘺𝘪𝘢𝘳 𝘢𝘨𝘢𝘮𝘢 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪 𝘥𝘢𝘳𝘪 𝘴𝘶𝘯𝘯𝘢𝘩 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩𝘶 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩𝘶 𝘴𝘩𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘢𝘩𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘴𝘴𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘮𝘶𝘭𝘪𝘢. "[7]
Moreover, the month of Dzulhijjah is also one of the glorified haram months. So it's okay to choose this month as the time to get married. Is it possible that one of the reasons why many people hold weddings in the month of Dzulhijjah is because at this time meat stocks are more abundant so it is easier to entertain guests? Who knows.
But what is clear is that if everything is ready, what are you waiting for? Execute it immediately, don't delay it later. What's bothering me is wanting to get married quickly this month, but there hasn't been any preparation at all. Wow, how is this? Panic or not, panic or not??? Yes, panic, can't you...!
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[1] Al Mausu'ah al Fiqhiyyah al Kuwaitiyyah (41/220).
[2] Majmu' Syarah al Muhadzdzab (9/209).
[3] Al Mausu'ah al Fiqhiyyah al Kuwaitiyyah (41/220).
[4] Nihayatul Muhtaj (6/185).
[5] Source of fiqh site.. islamonline
[6] Ibid
[7] Ibid