OBLIGATION TO KEEP HOUSEHOLD SECRETS
𝗞𝗘𝗪𝗔𝗝𝗜𝗕𝗔𝗡 𝗠𝗘𝗡𝗝𝗔𝗚𝗔 𝗥𝗔𝗛𝗔𝗦𝗜𝗔 𝗥𝗨𝗠𝗔𝗛 𝗧 𝗔𝗡𝗚𝗚𝗔
𝘖𝘭𝘦𝘩 : 𝘈𝘩𝘮𝘢𝘥 𝘚𝘺𝘢𝘩𝘳𝘪𝘯 𝘛𝘩𝘰𝘳𝘪𝘲
In the Qur'an the relationship between husband and wife is described with a very beautiful expression: "𝘔𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘬𝘢 (𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢 𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪) 𝘢𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘱𝘢𝘬 𝘢𝘪𝘢𝘯 𝘣𝘢𝘨𝘪 𝘬𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘢𝘯, 𝘥𝘢𝘯 𝘬𝘢𝘭𝘪𝘢𝘯 (𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢 𝘴𝘶 " (QS. Al Baqarah : 187)
And we already know that the most important function before other functions of clothing is to cover the private parts. This means that Allah Ta'ala wants to convey through this verse that the first thing that a person as a life partner must pay attention to is that he or she becomes a cover for shame for his or her wife or husband.
Especially for wives, this matter is emphasized even more, as confirmed in a hadith:
وَلاَ تَأْذَن فِي بَيتِهِ إِلاّ بِإِذنِهِ
"𝘔𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘬𝘢 (𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘢 𝘪𝘴𝘵𝘳𝘪) 𝘵𝘪𝘥𝘢𝘬 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘬𝘬𝘢 𝘯 𝘴𝘪𝘢𝘱𝘢 𝘱𝘶𝘯 𝘬𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘳𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘩𝘯𝘺𝘢, 𝘬𝘦𝘤𝘶𝘢 " (HR. Bukhari)
In another history, "𝘛𝘪𝘥𝘢𝘬 𝘮𝘦𝘮𝘢𝘴𝘶𝘬𝘬𝘢𝘯 𝘴𝘦𝘴𝘦𝘰𝘳𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘬𝘦 𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘳𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘩 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘥𝘪𝘣𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘪 𝘰𝘭𝘦𝘩 𝘴𝘶𝘢𝘮𝘪𝘯𝘺𝘢."
The meaning of house in the above hadith is not limited to just a house where one lives, but includes everything the wife lives in and is related to her household.
Today, it includes the wife's activities with her communication tools and somed accounts such as Facebook, WA, Instagram and others.
So wives should ask their husbands for permission in their activities on social media. If there is something that the husband does not like, the wife is obliged to obey it as part of obedience.
Wives also have to be good at keeping their husbands' secrets hidden. Don't let anyone who doesn't like him enter your household life and find out the secrets it contains.
Among these secrets are anything related to sexual activity, morals or the husband's daily behavior. Because a wise wife knows that her husband's disgrace is also her own disgrace.
Likewise, the wife maintains trust in discussions related to her husband's work. Such as salary, business strategy, bonuses and others. Because a good wife will also be vigilant, lest other parties use such information to bring down her husband's business.
A shalihah wife will also keep her husband's past tightly closed, his dark history, his relationships with other people, because she has finished all the pages of her story, since she started a new life with him.
A wife who is not good at maintaining trust, by revealing the secrets within it to others is the main cause of disaster for the household.
From a psychological perspective, a husband will be doubtful of a wife like that, he will be wary of people he should feel safe with.
Over time, the husband will lose trust in his wife. And it will become even more complicated when it is similar to betrayal because of the misuse of the trust that should be maintained.
If it's like that, the household ship is just waiting to sink in the middle of the ocean, because slowly but surely affection and love will be replaced by hatred.
So remember the wives of the wives of the valuable messages of the scholars about this problem: "𝘓𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘢𝘳𝘬𝘢𝘯𝘭𝘢𝘩 𝘳𝘢𝘩𝘢𝘴𝘪𝘢 𝘳𝘶𝘮𝘢𝘩 𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘨𝘨𝘢𝘮𝘶 𝘬𝘦 𝘭𝘶𝘣𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘴𝘶𝘮𝘶𝘳 𝘺𝘢𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮 𝘵𝘦𝘳𝘥𝘢𝘭𝘢𝘮
And as a final note, although our hadith and explanation emphasize wives, the law of course also applies to husbands. The hadith mentions women because by nature they are the ones who find it easier to reveal their secrets.
But as a rule, the mention of women is to mention cases, not a legal limitation only to them.
Wallahu a'lam.
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